Healthy families, Talk, Feel and Trust.

 Messages we need to hear in childhooutside. These messages range from birth to 18 months from 18 months through 2 years old, from 3 years old to 5 and from 6 years old to 12 and from 12 to 18 years old. These messages are foundations. Building blocks for our children to become successful well-rounded.  And carrying individuals accepting themselves wholly and completely.

• Share their inner and outer lives.They talk about their wants, needs.Dreams plans hopes fears concerns and uncertainties
• Ask questions and take a genuine interest in one another.Listening to what they hear with an open mind
• Communicate directly, they do not communicate for one another or talk behind any 1's back. Parents work things out with each other. Rather than bending to a child, they don't ask kids to act as messengers or involve children in their relationship problems or discuss their sex lives.
• Compliment, celebrate and encourage each other.They notice and share the things they like and appreciate about each other
• Understand communication can be difficult and messy.They give each other space and make time to resolve misunderstandings

Healthy families do not....

• Silence, any member or criticize how they communicate.They focus on the feelings and needs behind the words
• Use the silent treatment
• Mock a little to insult or shame. One another for their opinions behavior or for expressing themselves as individuals..

Human development is a rich subject.If you're interested in learning more than the small taste , you'll find many books and online resources to help you deep in your understanding.

These ideas were from the loving parent guide book.The solution is to become your own loving parent.