Yes, I control others with manipulation, playing the victim or just letting them provide my happiness. How many ways do I recognize of what people hear....I only tell certain things to others to get what I want, or to keep them as friends. In part this is also a way of telling them what they expect to hear. to control people actions...I give instructions as to what to do...eg as a director in a play. to control peoples feelings... to control my emotions... using gossip to get control of someone try and control my thoughts....that's just point less I have lies to get my way or so someone doesn't leave me I read up on people to know what their up to getting control of their behavior try to control my future by saying the right things to others I try no to threaten to control but, i have used it in ways of your not allowed to...or do this I'm leaving. I still barely understand this and i have read fellow travelers, I still need to take a closer look at mysel...